EIC and veteran matchmaker Abby Crespin works alongside Journalism I student Jillian Sterner to offer our dearest
advice in the first matters of the heart column of the 2024-25 school year.
How do I get over my ex-boyfriend? I still think I love him.
Time is the best medicine. Remember that you broke up for a reason, and keep that in mind. Odds are, you miss the idea of him, and you are conveniently choosing to erase the negative aspects of your relationship to cling on to a glimmer of hope. Focus on yourself.
I’m a senior. I’ve been with my current girlfriend since middle school. I feel like I want to be with her during college, but I think she might want to split up. I think the only way I can make her stay with me is by proposing. We love each other, and I think we’ve been together long enough, but I know proposing in high school is frowned upon. Help me Lasso!
Talk to her. If you suspect she intends on ending the relationship, communicate with her and work to build a common understanding. If she truly wants to split up, a proposal will not save your bond. If the relationship continues, marriage is something that you can focus on in the future, but definitely not right this moment.
I hate my boyfriend!
If you hate your boyfriend, then break up with him. There is no point in latching on to someone you don’t even like.
Why does no one notice when I try to express interest?
Hi there! You are totally not alone on this one—studies suggest that people can’t really tell the difference between flirting and friendship. Perhaps avoid expressing your feelings through covert signals, and instead opt for honesty. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.
I think that guys are intimidated or scared by me. Some people told me that I looked scary/ too serious. And I am one of those ppl who wants to be approached, sooo idk what to do. Help???
Ahh, another victim of the RBF. Intimidation isn’t necessarily negative, as the right person will have the courage to approach you, but if you’re looking to shift the narrative, focus on body language. People love when you match their energy—be authentic and show your emotions. Vulnerability is alluring.
My girlfriend of 6 months just broke up with me. Part of me wants to get her back, and part of me wants to move on and get with someone else. I was just about to ask her to HOCO, and I don’t want to still be single by then. What should I do?
It seems like your primary reason for reconnecting is for the label and the homecoming date. If you truly miss her, it’s possible to rebuild, but it might not be the right time. Reflect on what you actually want from a relationship. Don’t just jump into action because you’ll miss the idea of dating.
I had a massive friend crush on this person two years ago. We kind
of interacted a little and were friendly acquaintances with mutual
friends, but I never got the courage to get closer to them. Then they
moved away, and I thought I never would see them again. This year, I
realized they came back! But there’s one problem……….. We have no
classes together! Not to mention, I almost never see them in the halls
and we basically don’t have any mutual friends anymore! I don’t even
think they recognize me because I look different now :(( How do I
become friends with them?!
If you are looking to build a friendship, try bonding over similar interests—join clubs and look for mutual friendships. Additionally, try compliments! Unexpected compliments are
