Hello loyal readers! Happy Valentine’s Day! Please enjoy our answers to your heartfelt inquiries on this extra heartfelt day. <3
I got a small thing for someone I like for Valentine’s Day, but our relationship is pretty rocky now to say the least. Should I still give it to them???
It definitely depends on what exactly the description “rocky” means, but I would say yes, especially if the relationship is something you want to continue pursuing. Gifts can also be a sweet way of apologizing or showing affection if you want to demonstrate a commitment to moving forward. However, if you are planning to break up, it may make things more confusing.
I’m currently stuck in a bizarre love triangle with a synchronized swimmer and a poet who communicates solely through interpretive dance. Any advice on how to keep my romantic circus from turning into a three-ring catastrophe?
This is definitely a… unique experience. We hope you avoid a three-ring catastrophe. Best of luck.
I’m worried that I’m putting too much into my relationship. I feel like I’m too attached and always doing a lot for them because I’m afraid of us breaking up, but I feel like they think I’m low maintenance and not valuable. I don’t want to be too dependent on our relationship, but I really love this person. Thoughts?
Relationships don’t always have to be 50/50. Sometimes you can’t always give your best and need extra support from your partner–– just as you should do for them. But, your partner should always make you feel loved and important. So, if you are not feeling like you are valued then you should communicate that or consider taking a step back from the relationship to prioritize yourself.
Is it possible to get back with someone I broke up with?
Depends on the circumstance. It can be very tempting to rekindle past relationships, but we suggest you consider why you broke up in the first place. If it was a timing issue or you truly believe that you both have grown and can improve the relationship, then we think it’s possible. But to restart something because you miss the idea of companionship is risky.
One of my friends has a boyfriend and they have arguments now and then and she will complain to me about them or something that he did or didn’t do. I’ve considered texting him in the past to give him some advice on what he should do or let him know something that she told me. Should I help him out sometimes and “meddle in their relationship” if I deem it necessary or should I leave everything to them?
Under no circumstances ever should you meddle in their relationship unless specifically asked. You may give the wrong impression by interacting with your friend’s boyfriend behind her back–– especially during an argument. Don’t involve yourself in their relationship because you are not in it and therefore you will never be able to fix anything. If they are not capable of working through their issues on their own, then their relationship may not be meant to last. Let them figure it out.
As I sit in Chemistry class, attempting to decipher the complex equations on the page, there’s another equation that has been occupying my thoughts far more than any chemical reaction. I really like this guy in my Chem class. Yesterday, I dropped my pencil and it rolled into a corner. I went to pick it up and when I turned around I heard his laughter, like the gentle fizz of soda meeting ice. He picked up the pencil first and gave it to me:, “here.” It’s as if our atoms are drawn together, forming an invisible bond that transcends the boundaries of the periodic table. How do I ask him over to make brownies with me? Should I just start by telling him he looks good in a lab coat?
Wow. What a beautiful story.
