Eva Williams

Welcome to Matters of the Heart, The Lasso’s love advice column.

When is Valentine’s day????

Today! Happy Valentine’s Day to everyone. Today is not just about romantic relationships, but celebrating everyone we love as well. 

There is a person that I think I like, but I’m kind of in denial of it. We’re good friends and I don’t want to ruin what we have, that’s the main reason why I don’t want to confess to this person. I don’t think our friendship is the type of friendship in which we could go past it if I confessed. I don’t think confessing is an option and it’s been difficult ignoring how I feel, what should I do?

Our initial thought is to confess. You likely aren’t enjoying the friendship as much because of the anxiety surrounding your feelings and what they could mean for your relationship. We understand that confessing is scary, but living in denial and secrecy can be even more miserable. Not only would being honest free you from your current state, but it could also lead to positive change.

However…if confession truly isn’t an option, summer is quickly approaching. Try to hold on for as long as you can, then take some real space over the break. Spend time alone and focus on letting go. Reset, and move forward.

How to tell if the guy I really like likes me back over only snap and see him in the hallways?

You can’t. It is not possible to develop real feelings without actual interaction. Talk to him!

I like this boy but I only have one class with him. He won’t talk to me because he thinks me and my friends are making fun of him. I apologized and told him that was untrue but he does not believe me and wants nothing to do with me. What should I do? 

Reflect on your friendships and interactions to understand why he feels that way. How are your actions giving the impression that you are making fun of him? How can you communicate differently? Additionally, people are more receptive to honesty in private. Try talking to him one-on-one to explain the truth. 

This thing keeps happening where someone gets interested in me romantically, and after some confusion I realize I don’t like them the same, and it keeps getting more awkward as I try to let them know I don’t feel the same, until something happens (it’s ended differently for each situation, sometimes positive, sometimes negative). How do I stop this, because it keeps happening?

Try to unpack that initial confusion. What is causing you to initially think you have feelings and lead the other person on? Work on becoming actively aware of your emotions so you understand exactly how you feel and prevent sending the other person the wrong idea. 

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